Planning your Catholic wedding: A checklist
Congratulations on your engagement! Your parish will be happy to
help you plan your wedding. This website can help, too, by giving you an
idea of what to expect. Use this step-by-step checklist as a guide to planning your
1. Getting engaged
2. Contacting your parish
3. Preparing for a lifelong marriage
4. Setting the wedding date
5. Choosing the form of your wedding
6. Choosing Scripture readings
7. Choosing wedding music
8. Choosing vows
9. Choosing roles for family and friends
10. Choosing other liturgical elements
11. Creating a
wedding program for your guests
12. Dealing with the details
13. The honeymoon
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Catholic Wedding Help.
This website deserves a bookmark for its wealth of
marriage-building tools: blogs, daily marriage tips, personal stories,
videos, marriage inventories, and links to resources in your area, just
to name a few. And it's sponsored by the U.S. Catholic bishops' pastoral
initiative on marriage.
The Catholic Wedding Book: A Complete Guidebook for
Brides, Grooms, and their Parents
by Molly K. Hans and Fr. William C. Graham
"Easy reading for Catholics of all ages, The Catholic Wedding Book provides practical advice for planning a wedding liturgy and the text of all official forms, readings and prayers approved by the Church--everything you need to make your wedding joyful and meaningful."
Together for Life
by Fr. Joseph M. Champlin
The classic Catholic wedding planning
booklet: all the prayers, blessings, and scriptural texts with
commentaries, at a really inexpensive price. Includes a
four-page planning worksheet.
Celebrating Marriage Preparing the Wedding Liturgy: A Workbook for the Engaged Couple
Paul Covino, editor
Still one of the best Catholic wedding
planning resources available, Celebrating Marriage is
written by experts in the Catholic liturgy to help couples use
sound liturgical and pastoral principles to make their wedding a
more prayerful, celebratory experience for everyone involved.
Chapter titles include "Age Old Traditions and Timely Advice,"
"The Ceremony: The Wedding Liturgy," "The Readings: The
Lectionary for Marriage," "The Music for the Wedding Liturgy,"
"The Environment for the Wedding Liturgy." The appendices
include "Preparing a Printed Program for the Wedding" and the
text of the "Blessing of an Engaged Couple."
Handbook of Church Music for Weddings
by Mary Beth Kunde Anderson and David Anderson
(©2007, 47 pages, Liturgy Training Publications)
Although this book was written for those in the Church who work with
couples planning their wedding, couples may find it useful for what its
publisher describes as "...an extensive list of congregational psalms,
acclamations, hymns and songs." Order it from Amazon by clicking on the
Your Catholic Wedding: A Complete Planbook
by Rev. Chris Aridas
(197 pages, ©2000, Crossroad Publishing)
A thorough guide to planning your Catholic
wedding; according to the publisher, it provides "the entire
liturgical rite with options, practical details of church
arrangements, an insightful commentary, and valuable checklists."
Examples of chapter titles include:
The Sacrament as Grace for the Community
The Sacrament as Grace for the Couple
The Church's Assumptions
The Couple's Spiritual Preparation
The Liturgical Celebration
Options Involving Family and/or Guests
Expenses: Who Pays for What?
Checklist One: The Couple's Calendar
Checklist Four: People in Attendance
Rite of Marriage
This is the official text of the Rite of Marriage,
as approved by the Vatican and the U.S. Catholic bishops. Includes the
text for the Rite of Marriage in each of its forms, as well as the text
of all Scripture readings and accompanying commentaries.
Christ on Your Guest List by Renee de Burgh
Like many wedding planning workbooks, this
one helps couples plan the details of their engagement period
and wedding day with checklists and worksheets and exercises.
Unlike other wedding planning workbooks, however, this one
approaches all those details through the lens of Catholic faith.
The authors repeatedly challenge couples to ask, "What's really
important in all this?" So, for example, they not only provide
practical guidance and tools for creating a guest list, but also
include a "letter" from Jesus encouraging parents of the bride
and groom to focus on welcoming guests in prayer. Quotes and
anecdotes extend and illustrate the theme of each section.
Chapter titles include "Budgeting for Matrimony, not
Mater-Money"; "Free from Human Expectations: Etiquette,
Feelings, and Other Rough Waters"; and "Parties." From the
publisher: "Instead of the "perfect" day, let's plan the
Christ-centered day. Grooms and Brides can say good-bye to
etiquette, -zilla's, must-have's, perfection and debt. Embrace
your dignity as an engaged couple and learn communication,
unity, and decision-making skills that not only will help you
center all the details on Christ, but also will prepare you for
marriage. This book is not intended to replace any portion of
the Pre-Cana preparations required of engaged couples seeking
the sacrament of Matrimony. Many Pre-Cana instructors provide
ample resources for couples to plan the wedding ceremony; this
book aims at planning everything else." 196 pages.